Sharmina. T
III B.A
Islamic History- 2013-2016 Admission
Sharmina. T
III B.A
Islamic History- 2013-2016 Admission
I am living
in a village called Puthoor which is situated in 20 km far from Thalassery in
kannur district . My village is blessed with natural beauty .My home situated
in the middle of 2 rivers ,a school and a pond .
I would like
to share you about my place’s marriage ceremony .Society permits for marriage
with some formalities ,functions
,practices .And these were different in various societies .When a proposal is
taken place then seek for information secretly about the person whose marriage
proposal is came and about his family .After that the important relatives of
the girl will went to the boys home and seek for clarification.
The ceremony
of first site of a girl happends with
much humour that is when a boy decided to see a girl to marry he should go at
first with his friend .The boy and his friend will go at first if the boy like
the girl he will inform his parents after that his parents inform the girl’s
parents .It is usual in many places but the different is ,when this ceremony is
taken place in girl’s home may have a lot of relatieves and the boy will be
welcomed with a lot of food means a various type of food namely unnkai,irachipathil,kaipola etc .It is important thing that if the boy is
not welcomed with these when he returns his home the all will be asked him
about the food if the food is not well then they estimate about the family
,their economy etc .this estimate will happen only in “women’s ” mind.
Engagement
- By calculating a day for engagement girls father or guardian and chief person in that locality
are goes to boys home and the chief of that area were also at there and
all will declare the date which is
convenient to all that will return after having food .
Practice in
marriage - in this
gaenaration the concept of marriage werefully different and changed alot the
marriage turned to a luxurious practices
. The marriage function on house is changed as a gand festival in these
day more foods are decrated in tables like a rain of foods there is fashion in making foods at night and
tha day of marriage different are served in different days .
A trend in
marriage is taken place in these days
ASAR KALYANAM in my opinion it is
better than the the rest because it reduce the cost of marriage it is done by
many of my areas .The night before the day marriage is known as MEHANDI
NIGHT(MILANAHI)at that time more peoples were invited like marriage days most
of people used video cameras to shoot the mehandi night also wedding day , its a trend in many houses to conduct stage programmes including song
party but i didn’t see in my area .
Nikah- the married lifebeginning from
nikah it is very importent in islamic
view first and most importent thing in marriage . Some times it happends in
bride groom’s home or may be in mosque .The guardian of bride and two witness
and whom is chief kadi were the main person engaged in nikah .The main activity
related to nikah is a pledge between the bride groom and the bride’s guardian
after that the main activity of marriage is done .In my area the nikah taken
place in yesterday.There is a chance to decide a marriage and the nikkah may be
after one or two years and also a chance to do a nikkah and to decide marriage
function after one or two years.
In wedding
day both of the houses makes food of different types. Now it is common to
provide special foods and some sort of
juices, ice creams etc...... The persons who came from bride groom’s
home have food in brides home.After the ceremony of nikkah bride groom and his
friends and relatives will visit bride’s home.At this time there is a practice
which humorous to all that is the bride’s mother will appear with a glass of
milk this milk will be drinkbride and bride groom.And a ring will be changed
each other.After they return the women relatives of bride groom will visit the
home. They wiil be
warmly welcomed and food were provided to them like tea or coffee or ice cream
etc. They make up bridly the girl with new dress . After that they return to
bride groom’s home with the bride . After their return the relatives of bride
will follow them without mother and
father .To finish this it will take more time . They will travel in bus and
they sing loudly in the bus like
“Madhuvarna poovalle narunila poomolalle
“Madhura pathinezhil lanki
mariyunnole”
Vili - The next practice after marriage is
vili there is 3 types of vili . First vili this be celebrated grantly after 3
days of marriage .The couples will go to
the bride’s home .before that some one will came to the bride groom’s home for
inviting them to their house . When they
visit the home they will be take some dress with them for bride’s family .In
that time bride’s home will be arranged with different types of foods . Like that
there may 2 vilis.
Thakkaram - In first reception the relatives of bride ‘s will visit bride groom‘s home at there so
many foods are arranged. Another day
bride groom’s family visit bride ‘s house . This will be celebrated grantly .
On that day’s night both of them stay at there. In my area usually a married
girl will stay in husband’s home .They will visit her home and stay only one or three days.