Puthoor  - marriage ceremony

Sharmina. T

III B.A Islamic History- 2013-2016 Admission

I am living in a village called Puthoor which is situated in 20 km far from Thalassery in kannur district . My village is blessed with natural beauty .My home situated in the middle of 2 rivers ,a school and a pond .

I would like to share you about my place’s marriage ceremony .Society permits for marriage with  some formalities ,functions ,practices .And these were different in various societies .When a proposal is taken place then seek for information secretly about the person whose marriage proposal is came and about his family .After that the important relatives of the girl will went to the boys home and seek for clarification.

The ceremony of first site of a girl  happends with much humour that is when a boy decided to see a girl to marry he should go at first with his friend .The boy and his friend will go at first if the boy like the girl he will inform his parents after that his parents inform the girl’s parents .It is usual in many places but the different is ,when this ceremony is taken place in girl’s home may have a lot of relatieves and the boy will be welcomed with a lot of food means a various type of food  namely unnkai,irachipathil,kaipola  etc .It is important thing that if the boy is not welcomed with these when he returns his home the all will be asked him about the food if the food is not well then they estimate about the family ,their economy etc .this estimate will happen only in “women’s ” mind.

Engagement  - By calculating a day for engagement girls father  or guardian and chief person in that locality are goes to boys home and the chief of that area were also at there and all  will declare the date which is convenient to all that will return after having food .

Practice in marriage - in this gaenaration the concept of marriage werefully different and changed alot the marriage turned to a luxurious practices  . The marriage function on house is changed as a gand festival in these day more foods are decrated in tables like a rain of foods  there is fashion in making foods at night and tha day of marriage different are served in different days .

A trend in marriage is taken place in these days  ASAR KALYANAM  in my opinion it is better than the the rest because it reduce the cost of marriage it is done by many of my areas .The night before the day marriage is known as MEHANDI NIGHT(MILANAHI)at that time more peoples were invited like marriage days most of people used video cameras to shoot the mehandi night  also wedding day , its a trend  in many houses  to conduct stage programmes including song party but i didn’t see in my area .

Nikah- the married lifebeginning from nikah  it is very importent in islamic view first and most importent thing in marriage . Some times it happends in bride groom’s home or may be in mosque .The guardian of bride and two witness and whom is chief kadi were the main person engaged in nikah .The main activity related to nikah is a pledge between the bride groom and the bride’s guardian after that the main activity of marriage is done .In my area the nikah taken place in yesterday.There is a chance to decide a marriage and the nikkah may be after one or two years and also a chance to do a nikkah and to decide marriage function after one or two years.

In wedding day both of the houses makes food of different types. Now it is common to provide special foods and some sort of  juices, ice creams etc...... The persons who came from bride groom’s home have food in brides home.After the ceremony of nikkah bride groom and his friends and relatives will visit bride’s home.At this time there is a practice which humorous to all that is the bride’s mother will appear with a glass of milk this milk will be drinkbride and bride groom.And a ring will be changed each other.After they return the women relatives of bride groom will visit the home. They wiil be warmly welcomed and food were provided to them like tea or coffee or ice cream etc. They make up bridly the girl with new dress . After that they return to bride groom’s home with the bride . After their return the relatives of bride will follow them  without mother and father .To finish this it will take more time . They will travel in bus and they sing loudly in the bus like

             “Madhuvarna poovalle  narunila poomolalle

          “Madhura pathinezhil lanki mariyunnole”

Vili - The next practice after marriage is vili there is 3 types of vili . First vili this be celebrated grantly after 3 days  of marriage .The couples will go to the bride’s home .before that some one will came to the bride groom’s home for inviting them to their house  . When they visit the home they will be take some dress with them for bride’s family .In that time bride’s home will be  arranged  with different types of foods . Like that there may 2 vilis.

Thakkaram - In first reception  the relatives of bride ‘s  will visit bride groom‘s home at there so many foods are arranged.  Another day bride groom’s family visit bride ‘s house . This will be celebrated grantly . On that day’s night both of them stay at there. In my area usually a married girl will stay in husband’s home .They will visit her home  and stay only one or three days.